(The Façade of Happiness)

Life Tip #6: For years I convinced myself that I loved my career in adult learning and development. No. I enjoyed it, but I finally had to admit that I didn’t love it. I was mistaking a good career for a career I should be passionate about. I let “good” get in the way of “great”…for nearly 20 years.

Don’t you do that. Don’t mistake or let good get in the way of great.

Life Tip #7: You’re not living if you live for how you appear to others on social media. It’s like the little kid who acts the clown to get attention, but who isn’t really like that in private or when no one’s watching.

Life Tip #8: I finally earned my Master’s Degree at age 50, with a major related to my current field of work. The only problem was that the moment I finished that final class, I realized that I was, honestly, mentally “done” with that field. That’s how far I let myself go down a career path I was not passionate about. I found myself wondering why I didn’t major in something I was passionate about.

Don’t you do that.

Life Tip #9: It is no secret that we all (self included) post only the shiny happy parts of our lives on social media. But can we at least tone it down a bit? Some of us go way overboard down that yellow brick road. The more you try to make us believe your life is all rainbows and unicorns, the more we suspect the opposite is true. So dial it back a bit.

And here’s a bonus tip: The quantity of your selfies is inversely proportionate to your true inner happiness. That might just be a fact. And yes this is harsh, but these are life tips, not tickets to Unicorn City.

Life Tip #10: Don’t record and post highly choreographed wedding proposal or wedding party dance routines. Just remember, anyone can “get” married, almost as easily as making a baby. It’s the “staying” married part that is truly impressive. Just like raising children into successful adults is impressive. A gender reveal party is cute and all, but how silly will that gender reveal video look when little Johnny or Susie is in jail at age 16? And how stupid will that choreographed wedding video look after your divorce at year 7? Choreograph your 25th or 50th anniversary, how about you do that.

“But do your work, and I shall know you. Do your work, and you shall reinforce yourself. A man must consider what a blindman’s bluff is this game of conformity.” ~ Self-Reliance – Ralph Waldo Emerson