Life Tip #83

You can’t move forward until you get real with yourself. One reason that it is so hard for adults to learn and grow is that we refuse to be real with ourselves. We need to admit—fully admit—what is wrong with us. These are probably things we already know deep down but have been hiding from. … Continue reading Life Tip #83

Life Tip #97

No one ever welfared their way to success! When I was young, I worked one summer for a landscaping company. In his pickup truck on the way to one of our jobs, the owner told us about a phone call he got from a guy responding to his Help Wanted ad. The guy asked the … Continue reading Life Tip #97

Standing on the Shoulders of Giants

 “If I have seen a little further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants." ~ Sir Isaac Newton ~~~~~ All of my giants have fallen. In the first half of this year, I’ve lost the most towering figures in my life. First, we lost Grandpa Charlie Stangl, and while only my grandpa-in-law, he … Continue reading Standing on the Shoulders of Giants

Life Tip #76

Empathy is the best, nay only, way to move about this world full of people. People, right? You can’t live with them…. People can really be annoying. People can really tick us off. People can really be first class jerks. I used to always see the bad in people and get irritated or angry with … Continue reading Life Tip #76

Keep an Eye on the Ivory Tower

Perhaps I am stating the obvious, but it looks like we need to keep a closer eye on the ivory tower. Click to read this recent story about an unethical university researcher fabricating data in order to garner research funds. Should we be concerned that this was one of those that got caught, yet there … Continue reading Keep an Eye on the Ivory Tower

Life Tip #151

Don’t be a boiling frog slipping down a slope. I am sure you have heard the “boiling frog” fable. If not, it is a brief fable that can be applied to many areas of our life. The fable tells us that if you try to throw a frog into a pot of boiling water, it … Continue reading Life Tip #151

Life Tip #73

Everything is relative. When I was younger, my friends and I went through a phase when we would say about anything and everything, “It’s all relative.” We thought we were being so clever and funny. Yet in reality, there is complete truth in that statement. Everything is relative. Things we think are awesome and wonderful … Continue reading Life Tip #73

Life Tip #142

Instead of focusing on living longer, make the years you live more meaningful. When I was a young adult I used to look forward to insightful and inspirational columns by a Catholic priest, Father Lou Guntzelman, in the county’s weekly newspaper. In one column, Father Lou was reflecting on how we are desperately focused on … Continue reading Life Tip #142

Life Tip #114

College is not necessarily the answer to a successful life, if it ever was. While it still feels strange to hear this coming from me, I firmly believe that going to college right after high school (if at all) is not the best option for everyone. It wasn’t for me, it wasn’t for my son, … Continue reading Life Tip #114

Life Tip #60

He is who He says He is. This Life Tip comes from an interesting case made by C.S. Lewis, when he put forth the idea that Jesus must either be who he says he is, or he must be a lunatic that needs to be locked up. Lewis points out in his book Mere Christianity … Continue reading Life Tip #60

Life Tip #163

Be kind to our homeless brothers and sisters. I realize that there are many homeless people who scam us, some who make us nervous, and even some who seem ungrateful. But the vast majority of homeless people need our kindness, and they need that as much as our money if the truth be told. Look … Continue reading Life Tip #163

Life Tip #87

Go ahead, be misunderstood. I simply must drop one of my all-time favorite inspirational quotes right here and now. It comes from Ralph Waldo Emerson, one of America’s greatest writers and philosophers, in his essay Self-Reliance, which I recommend everyone read…twice. Emerson writes that to be consistent in one’s thoughts and actions, just for consistency’s … Continue reading Life Tip #87

Life Tip #212

The following quote stands as its own Life Tip. It rings true as much today as it did more than 30 years after it first appeared: “Nobody really believes in anything anymore, and everyone spends his life in frenzied work and frenzied play so as not to face the fact, not to look into the … Continue reading Life Tip #212

Life Tip #45

It’s okay to walk away, just be sure to come back. One of the reasons that I think my marriage has lasted 25+ years is that when we get in an argument, we know that it’s okay to walk away mad. The trick is to make sure we come back, and the sooner the better. … Continue reading Life Tip #45

Life Tip #15

Leave the cave and come to the light. Many of us learned about Plato’s “Allegory of the Cave” in high school or college. If you didn’t, I strongly suggest you look it up and read it in its entirety, because its lesson is as applicable today as ever. It occurred to me that today’s young … Continue reading Life Tip #15

Life Tip #164

Give, and volunteer, in secret. Above all, give without expecting anything in return. Give without expecting a thank you. Give without expecting attention. I puke a little bit in my mouth every time I see a so-called “random act of kindness” that just happened to get filmed on someone’s smartphone, which then just happened to … Continue reading Life Tip #164

A Reality Thanksgiving

The following piece was first published in the Cincinnati Enquirer way back in November of 2004. I like to keep it close at hand whenever I feel myself losing my appreciation for all that I have. Maybe you will gain a bit more appreciation yourself after reading it. A Reality Thanksgiving In this season of … Continue reading A Reality Thanksgiving

Because They Could

A Cautionary Tale by Kurt Borne They made fire, because they could. They realized the effects were good. But they never considered how exactly it was that they could. They were just happy that they could. They learned to write and share ideas, because they could. They thought, "Since we can it must be good." But they never stopped … Continue reading Because They Could

The Few Books that Shape my Life

What do Willy Loman, Ebenezer Scrooge, and Ivan Ilyich have in common? I’m currently working on my own first book project, and the thought occurred to me that a handful of books I’ve read have significantly shaped my life. I feel lucky to have grown up when schools still made you read some of the … Continue reading The Few Books that Shape my Life

And the Moral of the Story Is…

By Kurt Borne January 27, 2014 One of our great traditions growing up was reading and listening to the timeless Aesop’s Fables. I honestly do not know if many kids today grow up learning the great lessons found in Aesop’s Fables. I certainly hope so. But if your parents weren’t able to share these with … Continue reading And the Moral of the Story Is…